Across the Furious Sea： Can children get out of the harm of family of origin？

Special feature of 1905 film network I thought it was the ultimate revenge of the father who lost his daughter, but the reversal of the truth about his daughter’s suicide uncovered family of origin’s cruel proposition. This issue of "Today’s Film Review" invited Ma Pin, a psychological consultant, to interpret the theme of the film from a psychological point of view and give feasible solutions.

— — Neither you nor I should ignore the pain caused by family of origin, and we should be brave and independent ourselves.

Aside from all the black banter packaging made by the director, from the Laojin family to the Jing Lan family, it really echoes the opening sentence — — This story is pure fiction. Among them, everyone is extremely crazy, extremely hate, and extremely deformed love.

I may be Nana and Vivi in the film. I chose to go into the cinema to watch Across the Furious Sea, and I did recall my childhood that I didn’t want to talk about again. Nevertheless, I would like to applaud Cao Baoping and this angry sea.

01.I have been involved in anger and faced family of origin’s pain

When Laojin dragged Li Miaomiao away in Jing Lan’s painful wailing, the story continued; When a desperate female wolf was rescued from the sea by an angry bull, the story continued after they sat down on the beach and thoroughly understood what was happening in front of them. And when the film gradually revealed its true meaning at this time, I really realized the true meaning of the title.

Anger is an exclusive emotion, and when anger leaves, other emotions may flood in — — Laojin finally began to feel sad. He became a frustrated father, a person who felt pain, and also became the object of revenge by the Avenger.

In this sense, anger itself is a sea, and only by crossing it can we see the truth.

Cao Baoping used his most familiar word "Anger" to subtly but extremely uncover a fig leaf about education in many traditional East Asian families.

What this curtain hides is the love that parents think of themselves in parent-child relationship, and the false love that ignores children’s feelings and only satisfies their own identity.

02.Face up to reality, movies are also the epitome of family of origin.

The image of "crazy criticism" supported by all these actors’ acting skills is not the real core that the film wants to convey, but the more universal life details in the film should be conveyed.

Back to the role in the film, Lao Jin is an out-and-out male chauvinist father. His ideas of "a man should support his family" and "a man should have face" are not based on how to get better with his children, but how to win more in social relations.

In the film, many imaginary feelings of Lao Jin about children are also explained, which are different from the real feelings of Nana. For example, Lao Jin pasted a towel on Nana’s face, and Nana gradually lost her breath in fear, but in Lao Jin’s eyes, Nana was a sturdy and obedient girl.

Even now, many children may have already done self-injury. In this case, even their parents will say "just carry it" and "how much has this child experienced". These thinking patterns without empathy or even taking it for granted are the traps that parents should be more alert to.

On the other hand, in Li Miaomiao’s family, parents have a successful career, but they only provide an indulgent and neglected love, which also helps Li Miaomiao develop an antisocial personality. In the eyes of mother Jing Lan, although Li Miaomiao has constituted a murder, Jing Lan forgave her son with great and inclusive love, which is a kind of doting and indulgence.

In fact, there are many such parents in life. They even say "this child is like this, as long as he is alive, let the society take care of it" or "there is nothing I can do about it, I will regenerate one" when the child encounters problems.

I really get goose bumps when I hear such words coming from a pair of parents sitting in front of me. Think of Li Miaomiao’s smile on his cheek at every moment when he was held high in the film, and you and I will definitely affirm the importance of family education as never before.

03.Tearing off the mask and not loving is the culprit.

As for the questions raised by some viewers, why should Across the Furious Sea blame family of origin for all the problems of the children? In fact, Freud once said: "People can only suffer the greatest harm when they love."

In fact, the black tentacles stretched out by Nana and Li Miaomiao were not formed by accident overnight, but each time they faced love from family of origin, they were accumulated by denial, rejection and disappointment again and again.

When Nana and Vivi came out of family of origin, they were carrying a deformed body, looking for the missing love, looking for hit the floor’s care, looking for taking off their burdens, following the guidance of light, and looking for the right way out of their predicament.

So, after answering the audience’s bloody questions, did Across the Furious Sea become a perfect film? Actually, it’s not.

It just tore off the fig leaf, but didn’t let the people standing behind the fig leaf have a safer place than the wardrobe painted with the sun.

In fact, countless Nanas know that they are in trouble, but it is difficult for them to "help" their parents realize the awakening of love with a death like Ri-na Kim. More often, they can only tinker in the wreckage and teach themselves how to ignore the pain brought by family of origin with bloody lessons.

Ma Pin, a psychological counselor, gave three self-help suggestions for Nanas in the program.

The first point is to have hobbies; The second point is to establish a new relationship, and the third point is reflection, that is, to distinguish what is feeling and what is the hidden idea behind feeling.

Finally, I wish everyone can open their lockers, hug themselves and feel the real temperature and love. I also hope that future Chinese movies can give the most analgesic injection with the gentlest shell, so that problems can be seen and sunshine and warmth can come out of the cupboard door.